Thought it was ‘not feminist’ to worry about my fertility

Pictured with one of her children in January last year, Alex Jones said she thought it was 'unfeminist' to worry about her fertility.

Pictured with one of her children in January last year, Alex Jones said she thought it was ‘unfeminist’ to worry about her fertility.

BBC presenter Alex Jones said she thought it was “unfeminist” to worry about her fertility.

She told Elizabeth Day’s How to Fail podcast that she was told to focus on her career while growing up, and she felt like “no one wants to hear about the fact that you might want a baby on the way.”

“Through school, through your teens, through your 20s, the most important thing is not to get pregnant because it will ruin your career,” she said.

“At no point did anyone say, ‘But you might want to think about it. [fertility] If you want a family, because it’s just as important as a career.”

“It’s not more important to some people but it’s there,” he added.

“And the moment you decide to have a baby, oh my God, things change. It’s a 360.”

“I thought it wasn’t even a bit feminist to say ‘I’m worried about my fertility,’ because you’re too busy shaping your career.”

Jones said he thinks attitudes are slowly changing, but “that perception is still there.”

The 45-year-old Welsh presenter started her career in children’s television and is now a regular presenter of BBC One’s The One Show.

In 2017, she gave birth to her first child, Teddy, from husband Charlie Thomson, 39, who filmed Fertility And Me with the BBC in 2016. The show explored issues related to couples’ struggles to get pregnant.

She has previously said she was “really naive” about fertility before she struggled to get her second child, Kit, pregnant.

“I thought, ‘Here you are. We’re going to try to have a baby, and it will be beautiful, and then a baby will come.’ And of course … how pure. You don’t have any control over that,” he said.

“I think I’m older now, but we agreed that it would be fine. But you don’t really know how to go about it until you start trying, do you? Most of the couples I know have had something, not always IVF, but some problems that need to be resolved.

Alex Jones trains as a fertility assistant

Jones is presenting a documentary series called Alex Jones: Making Babies, which now airs Thursdays on the W Channel.

However, production was delayed due to concerns about filming the series while she was pregnant with her third child, Annie.

He discovered that he was pregnant with his daughter and worried that it would be insensitive to film couples who underwent IVF while he was pregnant.

She told How to Fail: “For ages, ‘God, I have to understand why I’m doing this. And I think it’s because so many of my friends have struggled for eternity for years and years. She didn’t do IVF, but it wasn’t easy.”

As part of the series, she worked at King’s Fertility in London, researching the IVF treatment and egg freezing process.

She has publicly spoken of miscarriage less than a year after the birth of her first child, although she has not undergone fertility treatment.

Jones explained that he struggled with whether he was the right person to make this new documentary, but felt he was the right person for the role because of the “empathy and warmth” of the production team.

Depression

Jones also spoke on the podcast about her husband’s difficulties with depression.

He said Mr Thomson was struggling with his mental health after having recently suffered from Lyme Disease and viral meningitis.

She said that she appreciated her husband’s attempt to understand her mental state, even if she didn’t fully understand it.

She told the podcast, “He’s trying to explain it and I’m like, ‘You think I’m a terrible person because I don’t quite understand it?’ I said,” he said.

“No, but I love you for that because you’re trying to get it,” she says. But he said it’s hard to fully understand that.”

“The only advice I can give is what to do and get professional help because I wasn’t feeling ready for it.

“I’ve been really kind too. I let it buy time. And you feel frustrated, especially when you don’t understand the enormity of it.”

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